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 Couple's Therapy in a Book
When my wife and I get stressed out in our relationship, we sit down and one of us reads about a page out loud from "If the Buddha Married", then we talk about it, and about our own communication problems.
This book reduces our defensiveness, and opens the door for us to level with each other about our own communication glitches, and makes it easier to let each other know what is bothering us about the other's communication style.
I'd recommend it to any couple.
Wish I would have read this before I married
I picked up this book when my husband and I were having difficulties in our second year. We were missing many of the ideas in this book, particularly being mindful of each other's and our own needs. This book helped us get back on track and we saved our marriage. Two years later, we are much stronger than before and have a beautiful son too. It is a good book for us to keep handy too for the occasional refresher.
Other critiques are correct. There is not much serious Buddhist philosophy and it doesn't mention Buddha's family life, but the lessons are very helpful nonetheless.
 For more than just a marriage
I keep this book in my car, but my fiance has another copy in our house. We used it when we lived apart during my first year of medical school, and it was a wonderful way to keep us connected and talking about things a little more introspective than our days.
Despite the cheesy name, this book has brought more intimacy to my relationships with my parents and friends, as well as with my fiance. I love the suggestions in this book for arguing, or giving advice. I often just open the book to a random page to see what is written, and I love the insight it brings to my own life.
The dating book is more about, well, dating, but I think it had a nice section on breaking up, which happens in all kinds of relationships.
Great for any relationship!
My fiance and I read this book together. We both enjoyed the style of writing and the "sense" it made of so many common mistakes and misunderstandings. It was not only useful for partner related relationships, but was also a great guide for all life relationships. Definitely enjoyable :-)
A great book
First, this book does in fact deal with the fact that Buddha (the man) had been married and so on, reviews stating that this book does not include factual information on this are wrong (maybe written by people who read an earlier version? or not at all?)
Second, I can say from my own personal experience, that this book has raised my interest in exploring just what Buddhism actually is (as well as a few other religions mentioned in the book.)
Finally, and most important, I have found that what is written in this book is right! It's that simple. I've had exposure to couple's counseling, 12-step programs and more, and this book distills the esential elements of being a healthy person/couple in this dysfunctional world/society.
A great read for anyone who wants to strengthen a current relationship, dissect past relationships or plan for the future!
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